Do Your Managers Have This Powerful Characteristic?

This week we look at the most powerful characteristic that every good manager should display...

Q: What do the following managers all have in common?

  • Managers that patronise skilled members of their team with obvious feedback and over-coaching
  • Managers that come across brash and unconvincing when trying to be upbeat or motivational
  • Managers that are fine with new changes and so assume everyone else will be too
  • Managers that ask of you things that they would not consider even trying to do themselves
  • Managers who attempt to answer all questions but don't have all the answers

A: They are not Self-Aware.

Every strong leader is built on a solid foundation of self-awareness

If a manager has a team of 6 people; every action that they take, every sentence that they speak will be interpreted 6 different ways…

...Over time there will be a huge spectrum of good, neutral and damaging opinions formed about the manger.

By being self-aware, the manager can start to see their more difficult relationships in a completely new way...

The manger can start to attribute their poor/damaged relationships to a lack of understanding of they are coming across...

Imagine if you could improve all the poor relationships in your company by allowing people to take a deeper look at why bad relationships occur and what role each person plays in that breakdown...

What would this mean in your company?

  • Stronger more effective teams?
  • Better cross-functional working?
  • Fewer instances of absences related to stress or burnout?
  • Lower staff turnover?
  • A better corporate culture?

Amazingly, research* suggests that actually managers tend to NOT be self aware.

In reality, very few people have the opportunity to reflect on relationships this way, but it is a skill that can be acquired…

Being honest with yourself, your team and your organisation can open doors, build trust and gain you credibility. 

To become self-aware we must get in the habit of reflection. To ask good questions and listen to feedback.

"The willingness to learn and improve yourself demonstrates self-awareness."

It is ok to not know everything and it's even better to want to learn and improve!

How would you go about getting your leaders on the same page? To start to listen to feedback, to be honest with their teams and to demonstrate a willingness to learn. 

Is this instilled in the management of the company you work in?

It can be a challenge to achieve this. But there are some great methods at your disposal, you could use:

  • Personality Profiling (like Myers Briggs, DiSC, Hogan, 360 Feedback etc)
  • Professional Discussions and coaching relationships
  • A Nine Dots Self-Awareness for More Effective Managers workshop - blending profiling tools, with group professional discussions and coaching to really highlight how individuals come across to others and where their areas for improvement sit.

We find that putting on training like this brings people together, it puts them on the same page and it becomes a lot easier to instil across teams. 

How could you increase self awareness in your workplace?

*A research project where 41,000 manager over 20 years responded to ‘The Change Style Indicator’